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“NYC swingers sex parties are feeling the pinch of the tough economy”

November 13, 2010

“NYC swingers sex parties are feeling the pinch of the tough economy”
NY Daily News

Like the roaming party DDeviousDelights, most New York City swinging venues are suffering from the economic malaise. The recession has left both stationary swinging clubs and roaming adult parties with lackluster event attendance and shorter membership lists.

“They used to say sex was an industry that was not affected by the recession — that’s not true,” said a DDeviousDelights cofounder who wished to remain anonymous because of privacy concerns. “Everybody — A to Z in the sex-related industries — is feeling the pinch.”

DDeviousDelights is one of many venues that blame the economy for its 30 to 40% event attendance drop this year. The high-end roaming party One Leg Up said it has had about 20 percent fewer event attendees a year since 2007. And one stationary club — the 14-year-old Carousel Couples Club — reported a 60% attendance plunge from 2007 to 2009.

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“‘Modern Love is Automatic’ imagines the Alexandria fetish scene”

November 12, 2010

“‘Modern Love is Automatic’ imagines the Alexandria fetish scene”
TBD.com

Growing up in Alexandria, writer and director Zach Clark wasn’t too into the Northern Virginia fetish scene. So when he began work on Modern Love is Automatic, a film about “a nurse who, on a whim, takes a side job as a dominatrix,” he enlisted the help of local sex workers to fill in the gaps.

“Very early on in the process, I tried to get a dominatrix in the area to at least read the script, and hopefully to come on board as a technical adviser,” says Clark, 28. “No one would return my e-mails.”

Though Clark says he had “wanted to do the nurse-dominatrix thing for a while,” his 2005 script on the subject lacked a professional touch. “The script largely relied on my general conceptions of what would happen in that situation,” he says. So Clark says he scoured “lists of dominatrixes online” for local dominant women versed in the ritual punishment of their male sex partners, then sent out stock e-mails to each one explaining the film’s consulting needs.

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“Cinekink: Your excuse to discreetly attend a BDSM dungeon party”

November 11, 2010

“Cinekink: Your excuse to discreetly attend a BDSM dungeon party”
TBD.com

This weekend, sex-positive film festival Cinekink will bring two nights of cinematic inquiry into spanking, furries, and compulsive eating to the District. For D.C.’s closet fetishist population, the film festival will also provide a convenient pretense for discreetly attending a BDSM dungeon party….That little arrangement—come for the cinema, stay for the pansexual alternative lifestyle—is a boon for D.C. fetishists, who must constantly negotiate their sexualities within the confines of the District’s buttoned-up social mores.

D.C.’s fetish scene “is definitely more of an underground kind of thing,” explains Cinekink organizer Lisa Vandever. “There’s certainly a crowd for this in D.C., but it’s more secretive. You know: A lot of government workers.”

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This Week in Repertory Film: Tracks, Polanski and Cinekink
Washington City Paper

Let’s say you really wanted to check out a local swingers’ venue, but you were having trouble coming up with a valid excuse that won’t piss off your significant other. You’re in luck this weekend, as The Crucible, the Navy Yard establishment that bills itself as the area’s only alternative lifestyles club (i.e., don’t forget the leather) plays host to CineKink, a roadshow of films about fetishes, peccadilloes and all your other sexual curiosities.

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“In a relationship, three in bed can be a crowd”

November 10, 2010

In a relationship, three in bed can be a crowd
The Eagle (American University)

Sexual experiences involving three partners are sometimes glamorized in the media and the porn industry. It makes logical sense — if two is good, then three must be better, right? But let’s take a moment to consider the logistics of a real-life threesome.

“Making fantasies realities can be satisfying, but it also can illuminate how different things are in the real world, with real people, than they are in our fantasies,” Heather Corinna, a professional sex educator and the founder of the teen sex ed site Scarleteen.com, says in one of her articles about safer sex.

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A Frank Chat with ‘Sex at Dawn’ Coauthor Christopher Ryan

November 8, 2010

A Frank Chat with Sex at Dawn Coauthor Christopher Ryan
The Stranger

What’s it like these days to be the people who wrote the book on the science of nonmonogamy? The New York Times best seller Sex at Dawn was published four months ago, and since then, coauthors Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá have received a lot of attention for their book. It’s not surprising—Ryan and Jethá have woven physiology, archaeology, primate biology, and anthropology into a controversial theory: Humans are not naturally inclined to be monogamous. People can choose to be in lifelong monogamous commitments, but long-term fidelity is difficult for Homo sapiens.

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“Whips, chains, cages…whoa!”

November 8, 2010

Whips, chains, cages…whoa!
Cosmopolitan

Who would have thought closet-stricken S&M would spill out in the open and become fashionable? We find out why celebs have embraced it…

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“Jury hears testimony about lifestyle that involves bondage and infliction of pain during sex”

November 5, 2010

“Jury hears testimony about lifestyle that involves bondage and infliction of pain during sex”
News OK

In an unusual domestic abuse trial, an Oklahoma County jury Wednesday learned about a secretive lifestyle based on bondage and the infliction of pain during sex.

The jury heard about the so-called BDSM lifestyle from a Utah woman who signed an agreement with an Oklahoma City man that he would be the master and she would be his slave.

“I like sex rough. I like to be tied up. I like to be spanked,” the witness, Nanette Larsen, testified. “People in the lifestyle call people not in the lifestyle ‘vanilla.’”

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Leather, BDSM ‘lifestyle’ provides security, stability

November 1, 2010
 
Leather, BDSM ‘lifestyle’ provides security, stability
QNotes

When most folks think leather or BDSM — that is, bondage, domination, sadism, masochism — chills might run up their spine. Or, perhaps, feelings of disgust flash through their mind.

It’s that initial, gut reaction that most upsets Pam Payne. She lives in and around Hickory and operates a mentoring program and four-bedroom “halfway house,” so to speak, for people in the leather and BDSM “lifestyles” who find themselves in flux or in need of some extra help. She is a part of the BDSM lifestyle herself and she says her way of living is about much more than images of sexual power, pain and perversion most people ascribe to it.

“It’s not purely a sexual identity,” Payne says in rebuttal to arguments about her life and family. “I’d say its a balance of 50-50 — people who just want to belong on a level that doesn’t exist in the vanilla world.”

“Vanilla” is how Payne describes mainstream society, whether gay or straight.

She says most people in the BDSM lifestyle simply long for acceptance and relationships that matter. “I want to be able to do this for you, give this to you, serve you in this way and, in return, I want you to take care of me in this particular way,” she says, describing a typical relationship which she says is built over periods of months — sometimes years — and depends on negotiation and contract. …

Report: Swingers club called Shangri-Lust busted in Fort Myers

October 28, 2010

Report: Swingers club called Shangri-Lust busted in Fort Myers
Orlando Sentinel

Authorities this week busted a swingers club called Shangri-Lust in a Fort Myers subdivison that offered an orgy room, stripper pole and a bartender who mixed and served drinks, news-press.com said.

The club, which operated out of a single-family home in the Whiskey Creek development in the 1500 block of Beechwood Trail, prompted complaints from neighbors.

The Florida Division of Alcoholic Beverages and Tobacco accused homeowners Lawrence Angstadt, 58, and Charlotte Nottage, 50, of operating an illegal club because they didn’t have an alcohol license.

Questions About Accuser Surround Sex Slave Case

October 25, 2010

Questions About Accuser Surround Sex Slave Case

AP

The allegations in the indictment were shocking: A young woman had been held captive for years as the sex slave of a Missouri couple. She had been locked in a cage and subjected to electrical shocks. Parts of her body had been nailed to wooden planks. When announcing charges last month, U.S. Attorney Beth Phillips called the case one of “the most horrific ever prosecuted in this district.”

Authorities said the woman was a mentally deficient runaway who was recruited by an older man at the age of 16 to live in his trailer. The situation came to light in early 2009, after the woman, then 23, landed in a hospital following what prosecutors said was a torture session.

But as more details have emerged, more questions have arisen about the accuser, including her involvement in violent sex practices, her posing for a pornographic magazine and her work as a strip-club dancer. Supporters of the defendant are speaking out, too, saying many of the acts described in the indictment are practiced every day between consenting adults.

Ed Bagley, 43, faces 11 federal charges, including conspiracy, sex trafficking by force, fraud or coercion, and forced labor trafficking. Four other men also are charged with various crimes.

A graphic 21-page federal indictment describes medieval-like sexual devices being used on the woman at Bagley’s mobile home about six miles outside Lebanon, in southwest Missouri. Accusations of waterboarding, suffocation and beatings are mentioned throughout.

Bagley’s wife, Marilyn, said she and her husband knew the girl because she had dated their son. That relationship had ended, Bagley’s wife said, but the girl wanted to come live with the couple when relations with her adoptive parents soured. She said the girl moved in when she was 17, not 16, and never had sex with her husband until after she turned 18.

“She was not a runaway,” Marilyn Bagley said. “We picked her up from her adopted dad and stepmom. They were right there and everything.”

Marilyn Bagley said prosecutors have told her she also will be charged if she doesn’t agree to testify against her husband. But she said she will not take the stand against him because she believes the two did nothing wrong.

Prosecutors said Ed Bagley posted videos and other images on the Internet showing the young woman engaged in sexual activities. He allegedly described her as his sex slave and advertised that she would perform sex acts and submit to torture for other people during encounters online or in person.

Bagley is accused of taking payments of cash, cigarettes, computer hard drives, even meat, to let other men come to his home and torture her.

Bagley and other defendants are also charged with transporting the woman to California in 2006 and 2007 for prostitution. She appeared on the cover of the July 2007 issue of Taboo, a publication owned by Larry Flynt’s Hustler Magazine Group, and was the subject of a story and multipage photo spread inside.

Prosecutors said Ed Bagley also forced the girl to work as an exotic dancer and threatened to punish her if she was not a top earner at the clubs where she stripped.

But another dancer at the same Missouri strip club said the woman seemed to enjoy the attention she got when she danced, often showing off the issue of Taboo magazine that featured her on the cover.

“This girl was spoiled,” said Katie Smothers, who said she spent time at Bagley’s trailer when she needed a place to stay but never participated in bondage activities.

“She would take customers to show them her magazine, and she had a bucket of photos at the bar. She bragged about it.”

Susan Dill, Bagley’s Kansas City-based attorney, told reporters recently that the indictment tells only one side of the story. She said the defense will present evidence that the woman practiced BDSM — bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism — by choice.

Dill declined to go into detail, and attorneys for the other defendants turned down requests for comment.

The U.S. attorney’s office in Kansas City also declined repeated requests to comment, saying the indictment speaks for itself.

Marilyn Bagley, who for years shared a bed with her husband and the woman, told The Associated Press the woman often left the Bagleys’ home to go into the community.

She believes the woman’s family coerced her to go to police after she was taken to a hospital suffering from cardiac arrest, which Bagley claims she suffered while getting ready for work — not during a torture session.

“She started seizing, and when she was done, she stopped breathing. Ed gave her CPR. I was on the phone to 911. We were freaking out. We didn’t know what to do,” she said.

Dr. Keely Kolmes, a San Francisco-based psychologist who sees patients who practice BDSM, said that many of the acts listed in the indictment can be part of consensual activities. But others might indicate Bagley was an abuser, such as allegations that he shot animals the woman cared about to prove he could kill her and that he refused to stop immediately when the woman used a “safe word.”

“Consensual BDSM does not involve holding minors hostage against their will or causing physical or mental harm,” Kolmes said in an e-mail to the AP. “That is a criminal behavior.”

Susan Wright, spokeswoman for the Baltimore-based National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, said some of the things Bagley is accused of are clearly abuse, if true.

“Certainly in abusive relationships, sometimes it’s hard to parse out what people do voluntarily and what things they are coerced to do,” said Wright, who helped write a sadomasochism vs. abuse policy statement in the late 1990s that has been adopted by national BDSM groups.

At times, it all becomes “tangled up,” she said. “And at that point, I don’t think any consent you give is legitimate consent.”