Like the roaming party DDeviousDelights, most New York City swinging venues are suffering from the economic malaise. The recession has left both stationary swinging clubs and roaming adult parties with lackluster event attendance and shorter membership lists.
“They used to say sex was an industry that was not affected by the recession — that’s not true,” said a DDeviousDelights cofounder who wished to remain anonymous because of privacy concerns. “Everybody — A to Z in the sex-related industries — is feeling the pinch.”
DDeviousDelights is one of many venues that blame the economy for its 30 to 40% event attendance drop this year. The high-end roaming party One Leg Up said it has had about 20 percent fewer event attendees a year since 2007. And one stationary club — the 14-year-old Carousel Couples Club — reported a 60% attendance plunge from 2007 to 2009.
Growing up in Alexandria, writer and director Zach Clark wasn’t too into the Northern Virginia fetish scene. So when he began work on Modern Love is Automatic, a film about “a nurse who, on a whim, takes a side job as a dominatrix,” he enlisted the help of local sex workers to fill in the gaps.
“Very early on in the process, I tried to get a dominatrix in the area to at least read the script, and hopefully to come on board as a technical adviser,” says Clark, 28. “No one would return my e-mails.”
Though Clark says he had “wanted to do the nurse-dominatrix thing for a while,” his 2005 script on the subject lacked a professional touch. “The script largely relied on my general conceptions of what would happen in that situation,” he says. So Clark says he scoured “lists of dominatrixes online” for local dominant women versed in the ritual punishment of their male sex partners, then sent out stock e-mails to each one explaining the film’s consulting needs.
This weekend, sex-positive film festival Cinekink will bring two nights of cinematic inquiry into spanking, furries, and compulsive eating to the District. For D.C.’s closet fetishist population, the film festival will also provide a convenient pretense for discreetly attending a BDSM dungeon party….That little arrangement—come for the cinema, stay for the pansexual alternative lifestyle—is a boon for D.C. fetishists, who must constantly negotiate their sexualities within the confines of the District’s buttoned-up social mores.
D.C.’s fetish scene “is definitely more of an underground kind of thing,” explains Cinekink organizer Lisa Vandever. “There’s certainly a crowd for this in D.C., but it’s more secretive. You know: A lot of government workers.”
This Week in Repertory Film: Tracks, Polanski and Cinekink
Washington City Paper
Let’s say you really wanted to check out a local swingers’ venue, but you were having trouble coming up with a valid excuse that won’t piss off your significant other. You’re in luck this weekend, as The Crucible, the Navy Yard establishment that bills itself as the area’s only alternative lifestyles club (i.e., don’t forget the leather) plays host to CineKink, a roadshow of films about fetishes, peccadilloes and all your other sexual curiosities.
In a relationship, three in bed can be a crowd
The Eagle (American University)
Sexual experiences involving three partners are sometimes glamorized in the media and the porn industry. It makes logical sense — if two is good, then three must be better, right? But let’s take a moment to consider the logistics of a real-life threesome.
“Making fantasies realities can be satisfying, but it also can illuminate how different things are in the real world, with real people, than they are in our fantasies,” Heather Corinna, a professional sex educator and the founder of the teen sex ed site Scarleteen.com, says in one of her articles about safer sex.
What’s it like these days to be the people who wrote the book on the science of nonmonogamy? The New York Times best seller Sex at Dawn was published four months ago, and since then, coauthors Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá have received a lot of attention for their book. It’s not surprising—Ryan and Jethá have woven physiology, archaeology, primate biology, and anthropology into a controversial theory: Humans are not naturally inclined to be monogamous. People can choose to be in lifelong monogamous commitments, but long-term fidelity is difficult for Homo sapiens.
In an unusual domestic abuse trial, an Oklahoma County jury Wednesday learned about a secretive lifestyle based on bondage and the infliction of pain during sex.
The jury heard about the so-called BDSM lifestyle from a Utah woman who signed an agreement with an Oklahoma City man that he would be the master and she would be his slave.
“I like sex rough. I like to be tied up. I like to be spanked,” the witness, Nanette Larsen, testified. “People in the lifestyle call people not in the lifestyle ‘vanilla.’”